Podcast
#229- Journey of Attachment: Fixating on the Negative When you walk around with resentful feelings toward other people or situations, you create a dark cloud of misery. This pattern of fixating on the negative takes everything to the extreme, spiraling from one negative to another. It goes back to childhood where the negative perspective was…
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#228- Selfish Is Not a Four-Letter Word People think “selfish” is a dirty word, so there’s a lot of fear around it. They’ve had it beat into them that being selfish is bad, which leads to people-pleasing. When you succumb to people-pleasing, you’re constantly at the mercy of the rest of the world to validate…
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#227- Journey of Attachment: How Overthinking Works Against You and Your Love Life Overthinking is about fear and avoidance. When something happens around us, our brains work overtime to create a strategy for dealing with it. It becomes a game of mental ping pong, which is not productive because we’re just reacting to events outside of…
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#226- How Empowerment Changes Every Relationship In Your Life As you grow and become empowered, everything changes around you. One of the more difficult parts of growth is possible loss. As you grow, what used to suit you doesn’t anymore. Other people may see you differently and not like it, and/or you may see THEM…
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#225- Journey of Attachment: Self-Fulfilling Prophecies Block You From What You Want We don’t realize how much we stand in our own way, making excuses to prove we can’t have what we want. These self-fulfilling prophecies, based on our negative beliefs, end up creating our reality. And it’s a reality we don’t want. I see…
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#224- Are You a Creator or Reactor in Your Life? Do you find yourself reacting to every little thing in your life, as though a force outside of you is carelessly tossing all your wants and desires to the wind? Or do you believe you’re the creator—in charge of your destiny? It can be a…
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#223- Journey of Attachment: Choosing Partners To Ensure You Stay Anxious Anxiety and insecure attachment often go hand-in-hand. I’ve thought about this a lot recently because my boyfriend has no real concept of anxiety and that horrible feeling I used to have that I might die. Why? Because he’s securely attached. It’s helped me see how…
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#222- The Problem with Affirmations An affirmation is defined as a positive assertion. They are statements you want to be true (which currently aren’t), stated in the present tense AS IF they are true. Like, “I’m in a healthy, loving relationship.” There are different schools of thought around how to use affirmations, and I had…
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#221- Journey of Attachment: Looking for Certainty in an Uncertain World We want other people to give us certainty so we can feel safe… because the outside world is unpredictable. We go to great lengths to control situations in order to feel secure, which only works in the very short term because true safety is…
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#220- My Way or the Highway: Bully and Dictator Behaviors Do you know people who pick fights all the time? They look for an opening to push their opinion or agenda. Or what about those who look for ways to manipulate and undermine others so they feel in control? Maybe YOU even have those tendencies at…
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