I was in an anxious avoidant relationship. We took turns being the runner and the chaser. It was also the relationship that was the most frustrating and hellish for me.
My reactions to events in this relationship were so visceral and upsetting, I knew I needed to find out where these intense emotions originated (yep, I always found their roots buried in my past) and really deal with them so I could be content in a relationship. That’s when I found you, Tracy Crossley!
With your guidance, I started to work on myself, fully deal with old relationship “baggage”, got crystal clear on what I really want for my life and made it (and me) a top priority. I got comfortable being honest and open with myself and others about what I want in relationships and saying what’s working, and what’s not. I learned to embrace abundance and reject what doesn’t work for me. I started taking responsibility for everything I choose to do, say, think, feel, etc. I learned to compassionately deal with and/or accept imperfections in myself and others…because…all together now, and say it like you own it… YOU CAN’T CHANGE ANYONE! YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOURSELF!!!
The only things we can do about other people’s behavior is listen, observe, and feel what impressions they make on us and respond. How we respond is the only thing we can control. Working with you while I was in such an awful rollercoaster ride of a relationship helped me find the reasons for my intense reactions to his inconsistencies and to see that I was being inconsistent, as well. I still feel things deeply (or maybe more so), but my responses are much more calm and rational. I can see triggers for what they are and work through them.
By the way, I took your suggestions on how to manifest the life and love I want (got very specific about what I really wanted, wrote the “letters”, etc.) and it worked amazingly well!!! Thank you!