Podcast

#328- Stories Are Not Reality; They Are Your Version of It

By Shelley / February 8, 2019 /

#328- Stories Are Not Reality; They Are Your Version of it You’ve heard there are two sides to every story. Actually, there are as many sides as there are people involved because stories are based on perspectives. When you build a case against someone, believing you are right and they are wrong, you are sticking to…

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#327- Journey of Attachment: Who Was the Avoidant in Sex and the City? (Hint, All of Them)

By Shelley / February 5, 2019 /

#327- Journey of Attachment: Who Was the Avoidant in Sex and the City? (Hint, All of Them) Our idea of healthy relationships is skewed by TV shows, rom coms and even classic literature that reinforces fantasy. They highlight the highs and lows of relationships, romanticizing drama. Women, in particular, wait for their prince charming, dismissing anyone…

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#326- We’re All Messed Up; Deal With It

By Shelley / February 1, 2019 /

#326- We’re All Messed Up; Deal With It So many people strive for perfection to cover up feeling they’re messed up. But I have news for you: everyone is messed up! Including you. Welcome to the club, restrooms are down the hall. Your inner critic is what makes you believe you aren’t good enough, punishing yourself…

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Surviving to Thriving: Frangela

By Shelley / January 30, 2019 /

Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Frangela In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with daytime talk show hosts Frances Callier and Angela V. Shelton, better known as Frangela. Best friends, living near each other in LA, Frances and Angela share just about everything… even a car! Their…

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#325- Journey of Attachment: My Whole Relationship Is On The Phone

By Shelley / January 29, 2019 /

#325- Journey of Attachment: My Whole Relationship Is On The Phone Technology has become a crutch for people to hide behind. It’s a haven for Avoidants! Of course technology can be used in a healthy way, but when used to hide, it becomes problematic. Suddenly the rules for engagement are super important: “I can’t call first,”…

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#324- I’m Entitled to More Than This

By Shelley / January 25, 2019 /

#324- I’m Entitled to More Than This Some people get angry when things don’t go according to plan, believing they are owed something. This may be a successful job, great relationship, health, happiness, etc. Basically it’s an expectation that everything externally should align with what you feel you deserve. A lot of this starts in childhood,…

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#323- Journey of Attachment: Making Someone Else The Bad Guy

By Shelley / January 22, 2019 /

#323- Journey of Attachment: Making Someone Else The Bad Guy When you make a mistake or don’t want to feel bad about your choices, do you pin it on someone else? It’s their fault, they are the one to blame, they did it wrong. Not taking responsibility for your words and actions does not endear you…

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#322- I’ll Wait To Make a Change Until It’s Safe

By Shelley / January 18, 2019 /

#322- I’ll Wait To Make a Change Until It’s Safe We all know change is hard. You say you want to quit your job or get into a relationship, but you don’t take the necessary steps to get there. Something in your past has made moving forward feel unsafe, so you wait for a sense of…

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Surviving to Thriving: Lauren Zander

By Shelley / January 16, 2019 /

Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Lauren Zander In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group, Lauren Handel Zander. Lauren was always a talker and poking her nose in people’s business… something that would ultimately serve her well. But being a life…

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#321- Journey of Attachment: I Feel Abandoned—Help!

By Shelley / January 15, 2019 /

#321- Journey of Attachment: I Feel Abandoned—Help! Your partner has left the building—physically, emotionally or both. Your world is slipping way, so anxiety takes over. You’re afraid you’ll never again experience what you had with this person. Even if your relationship was dysfunctional, you look at this person as your reason for living, thinking they have…

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