Podcast

#253- Journey of Attachment: Rescuing Others Doesn’t Win You Love

By Shelley / May 22, 2018 /

#253- Journey of Attachment: Rescuing Others Doesn’t Win You Love Do you ever look at others and pity them? Maybe there is someone in your life who you feel bad for, and want their situation to change. It actually bothers you if they do nothing to help themselves, so you feel this strong urge to rescue…

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#252- Teaching People How To Treat You

By Shelley / May 18, 2018 /

  #252- Teaching People How To Treat You It’s hard to watch someone you care about being disrespected. You might even get pissed and wish you could control their reaction, wanting to yell out, “Why do you let him/her treat you that way?!” Maybe YOU even start treating them badly because they’re teaching you that behavior…

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#251- Journey of Attachment: Never Beg to be Loved

By Shelley / May 15, 2018 /

#251- Journey of Attachment: Never Beg to be Loved This podcast title came from a meme that really resonated with me, “Never beg to be loved.” While it may not sound like something you would do, I see it quite often in insecurely attached relationships (it never happens in healthy relationships). Begging to be loved results…

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#250- Universe, Please Stop Beating Me Up

By Shelley / May 11, 2018 /

#250- Universe, Please Stop Beating Me Up The universe is powerful to be sure, but I speak to many people who believe it is in control and we’re just along for the ride. They think the universe decides if you should be punished or rewarded. This is simply not true. The universe does not act independently…

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#249- Journey of Attachment: Throwing Yourself a Pity Party

By Shelley / May 8, 2018 /

  #249- Journey of Attachment: Throwing Yourself a Pity Party Something set you off, leaving you to feel everything sucks and no one loves you. Or you just woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Whatever the trigger, you feel the world is against you. Maybe it’s those old feelings of rejection, shame or…

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#248- Stealing Energy From Others

By Shelley / May 4, 2018 /

 #248- Stealing Energy From Others When I first started coaching, I came across the book “The Ever-Transcending Spirit: The Psychology of Human Relationships, Consciousness, and Development” by Toru Sato. In it he talks about the concept of stealing energy. When you have an energy deficit in yourself, you may try to get it from others by…

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#247- Journey of Attachment: The Shame of Being Needy

By Shelley / May 1, 2018 /

 #247- Journey of Attachment: The Shame of Being Needy   No one wants to be called “needy” or “clingy,” so if you’re exhibiting this kind of behavior, you may be afraid to recognize and acknowledge it. It’s the last thing you want to admit to, especially if you fear judgment for it. Usually, you are in…

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#246- Searching For Your Life’s Purpose

By Shelley / April 27, 2018 /

#246- Searching For Your Life’s Purpose How often do you ask yourself why you’re here, and what your purpose is? I think everyone wrestles with this at some point in their life. You might be looking for signs you’re headed in the right direction so you don’t make a “wrong” decision and possibly fail. Maybe you’ve…

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#245- Journey of Attachment: Dating Someone Who’s in Another Relationship

By Shelley / April 24, 2018 /

  #245- Journey of Attachment: Dating Someone Who’s in Another Relationship This is a pretty taboo topic: dating someone who is in another relationship. I hear from a lot of people in this kind of attached relationship entanglement (and yes, it’s always rooted in insecure attachment). There’s often a fight between wanting to put an expiration…

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#244- When Others Judge, It’s Really About How You Judge Yourself

By Shelley / April 20, 2018 /

  #244- When Others Judge, It’s Really About How You Judge Yourself judgment Your inner judge provokes a reaction from your negative core beliefs, making you feel justified, angry and/or ashamed. If your partner says they are leaving you because you don’t love him/her enough or that you’re selfish, it might trigger the belief that you’re…

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