#803: Do You Like the Idea of Him or Her?
Those past relationships that seem to have a special place in your heart, anyone come to mind? I know putting someone who’s no longer in your life into a special place can feel warm and fuzzy, but is it just an escape? When we aren’t finding meaning in the present, we often escape—imagining an ex was “the one who got away” or reminiscing about “better times” that weren’t actually better.
Who were you back then? In reality, yes reality. What was the meaning of the relationship that ended at the time? Believe me, you’re not missing out on some magical connection—you’re feeling a void in the present. Meaning can be found here in the present, real meaning not a fantasized version of the past.
In this episode, Tracy explores:
- Glorifying past relationships–why do we do it?
- What is truth vs reality?
- Why do you want to detach from idealized memories?
- The importance of fulfilling meaning for yourself.
“It feels so much better to be yourself and to be here in the moment and creating the life that you actually want, than it does to be in the past.” ~ Tracy Crossley
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