#817: How to Stay in the Flow as an Avoidant
Are you exhausted from forcing everything to happen? From pushing through goals that leave you feeling empty once you reach them?
Most avoidants live like they’re perpetually on fire—reacting, controlling, forcing outcomes because “easy” feels dangerous. But here’s the thing: all that forcing keeps you from the very flow state that would actually get you where you want to go.
In this episode, Tracy explores:
- Why ease feels dangerous when you’re avoidant
- The difference between forcing and allowing
- How perfectionism keeps you stuck in empty cycles
- Sitting with discomfort instead of reacting
- Recognizing when you’re escaping versus flowing
“When you’re forcing, you’re coming from a state of lack. You can’t force a healthy relationship. You can’t force anything meaningful. But we keep trying because we’re afraid to let go of the false building we’ve created that everyone can admire.” ~ Tracy Crossley
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