#842: Why You Don’t Make It Easy For Yourself: Accidental Asshole #2
Ever notice how you are looking to feel safe? Maybe being three feet into work where everyone leaves you alone, or you’re just being busy. Productive. Your computer is a shield to life.
If you’re productive, you don’t get criticized. You don’t get in trouble. That’s sh*t from childhood, and you’re still running the program. For me, I was selling cookies and popcorn balls at seven, maybe my dad would think that’s great and at least not criticize me. Yea, so much of what you and I do is dependent on that safety.
It’s so much easier to have an emotional attachment to your work, a place, a routine, or any familiarity than to another person. It keeps you strategizing your next move. Keeps you away from your feelings. It’s avoidance doing it the hard way — making everything harder than it needs to be. Especially if every other part of your life comes second.
You’ll deny it. “Once I get this done, I’ll have all the time in the world.” Yeah. Okay.
Ease is a different feeling, one that your mind struggles to provide because it prefers the familiarity of pain. Staying busy is a familiar way to keep anyone at a distance. You’ve blindly done it since childhood, even though being numb like that is very lonely.
Tune in to the second episode of the Accidental A$$hole series and learn some tricks on changing to less accidental and more intentional in your ability to make it easier for yourself.
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What are you still carrying from childhood to feel safe? Try my free 18-minute meditation, Leave Your Baggage at the Station, on Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/tracycrossley13/guided-meditations/leave-your-baggage-at-the-station
Is staying busy your way of staying safe? Find out which cosmic archetype is running the show. Take the free Cosmic Frequency Quiz → Click here
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