#218- Feelings Won’t Kill You
So many of you avoid feeling your feelings because you don’t know what’s on the other side. You’re afraid painful emotions might totally consume you, sending you deep into an abyss. Like if you try to release even the smallest bit, the flood gates will open and you’ll be stuck in a pit of pain forever. It’s not true. Actually, when you avoid feeling your feelings, nothing in your life changes. Nothing. You just keep carrying around the same luggage filled with heaviness, sadness, depression, anger, anxiety, etc., pretending it’s not there. But let me tell you, ignoring it will NOT make it go away.
Numbing with substances, creating problems to solve, keeping busy, escaping through TV and social media are all ways you may distract yourself from feeling your feelings. But as you shove them down, the pressure builds and eventually they need an outlet. This may take the form of lashing out at someone in anger or blaming them for your pain, when really you’re angry at yourself because your avoidance strategies haven’t worked. Remember, blame is a powerless position, and your choices brought you here even if it seemed like the only option. The more you feel your disappointment and take responsibility for your actions, the more empowered you become.
If you want healthy, connected relationships and an overall fulfilling life, you have to feel your feelings. There’s no other way. And it’s not about feeling the anger and stopping there. That’s just the surface emotion. Under the anger is fear, which sits atop a swell of unknown emotions… the ones you’re afraid will consume you. But it’s connecting with THOSE feelings that will set you free. So how do you do that? I have a free download to walk you through it. Being able to do this is life-changing, and the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Remember, emotions won’t kill you. Trust yourself to handle them.
I have a free download to help with the process of connecting with your feelings and allowing them. Grab it below.
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