Self-Love
Monday Tip: Simply Say “Thank You”
Monday Tip: Simply Say “Thank You” Often, when someone does something nice for us, we immediately want to reciprocate. If someone gives us a gift, we feel terrible if we don’t have something to give back. When they compliment us on our outfit, we look for something nice to say about them. If someone drives…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Write a Letter to Your Honeybun
Monday Tip: Write a Letter to Your Honeybun Last week I talked about burying your fairy tale and choosing reality, so this week we’re not just going to focus on reality… we’re going to make it happen. I’ll start with a quick personal story: When I was dating, I used to pick apart the guys…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Bury Your Fairy Tale
Monday Tip: Bury Your Fairy Tale Fairy tales can be fun fantasies when we’re kids, but in adulthood they can be incredibly painful. How long have you waited for your knight in shining armor or your perfect princess to show up? Someone who will rescue you from your ho-hum life and tell you how amazing…
Read MoreWhy Won’t My Partner Respect Me? It’s About Setting Healthy Relationship Boundaries
Why Won’t My Partner Respect Me? It’s About Setting Healthy Relationship Boundaries Debbie’s partner called her lazy because she didn’t organize the garage last weekend as planned. When she shrunk his sweater he snapped, “You’re lucky I stick around.” She dismissed his comments as “overly dramatic” and “half joking,” but still baked him cookies to…
Read MorePeople Pleasing is the Opposite of Real Love
People Pleasing is the Opposite of Real Love Ever say “yes” when you want to say “no”? Do you try to masquerade as a perfect example to others? What about going along to get along, or being careful not to upset the apple cart? If so, how disconnected do you feel from who you truly…
Read More#372- I Look Like the Jerk
#372- I Look Like the Jerk Most of us act like a jerk at times—that’s just life. Some work really hard to prove they are not a jerk by overcompensating while others double-down on their behavior and defensively say, “I don’t care what people think!” Both are avoidant, fearful reactions based on how others perceive…
Read MoreI want to meet the one!
Are you waiting for the one? I got news for you. Until you realize you are the one, there is no one who fills those shoes. It means: You’ve got to be aware of your own behavior. You’ve got to surrender to your old ways. You have to stop looking at your date as the…
Read MoreUpset The Apple Cart Or It’s Breadcrumbs….
Many women and some men are afraid to say or do the “perceived” wrong thing while dating as they believe it risks rejection. I say, “Bring it on–you do not have anything to lose!” The same thing in relationships, when one or both partners are too afraid to share or ask questions. No one wants…
Read MoreThe Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best
Welcome to the final blog post in this series, based on one of my favorite books, “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz. If you need to catch up, you can read all prior posts below: Intro First Agreement Second Agreement Third Agreement Agreement #4: Always Do Your Best…
Read MoreThe Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions
Welcome back to my blog series on “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz. If you’re just joining, you can access the prior posts here: Intro, First Agreement, Second Agreement. Ok, let’s jump in! Agreement #3: Don’t Make Assumptions “The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth.”…
Read More