Posts by Shelley
#290- Starring in Someone Else’s Story
#290- Starring in Someone Else’s Story I have talked about the stories we tell ourselves, based on our experiences and negative beliefs… but what happens when you’re the star of someone else’s story? Maybe someone has decided who you are and what you’re about. If it’s negative, you may go to great lengths to prove…
Read MoreSurviving to Thriving: Col McGunnigle
Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Col McGunnigle In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with visual artist Col McGunnigle. As an award-winning graphic designer for 25 years, Col was at the top of her game, appearing in Vogue, Vanity Fair, Town & Country, and many other publications.…
Read More#289- Journey of Attachment: There is No Crystal Ball, Road Map or Guarantee
#289- Journey of Attachment: There is No Crystal Ball, Road Map or Guarantee A lot of people who are insecure about their situation want to predict the future. They want to know what to expect so they are prepared. If this is you, perhaps you turn to friends, psychics, therapists, etc. to assure you everything…
Read More#288- Defending Yourself is a Bottomless Pit
#288- Defending Yourself is a Bottomless Pit Defending yourself is reactionary; in response to a trigger. If someone pushes your emotional buttons you may respond with, “I did that because of X, Y, Z” or “That’s ridiculous, I would never say that.” You think you’re reacting to what someone else did or said, but you’re…
Read More#287- Journey of Attachment: Love is Not a Game of Chess
#287- Journey of Attachment: Love is Not a Game of Chess When you don’t feel loveable, you may strategize to get what you aren’t giving yourself, looking for someone else to fill you up. Or you’ll manipulate a situation to compensate for what you lack. You don’t realize you’re playing a game, but you are.…
Read More#286- If I Could Just Fix This One Thing…
#286- If I Could Just Fix This One Thing… If she wasn’t such a control freak, everything would be fine. When he finally leaves his wife we’ll be happy. If he/she would just commit a little more, everything would be perfect. How often does “happily ever after” hinge on that ONE thing? You hold on…
Read MoreSurviving to Thriving: Jacquie Somerville
Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Jacquie Somerville In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with best-selling author and founder of the School of Feminine Magnetism, Jacquie Somerville. Before Jacquie found her true self, she succumbed to societal pressures about marriage and kids. As she started connecting with…
Read More#285- Journey of Attachment: Is Mind Reading A Hobby Of Yours?
#285- Journey of Attachment: Is Mind Reading A Hobby Of Yours? How often do you think you know what your partner is going to say or do? And how often do you act based on that assumption? Trying to read someone’s mind in attached relationships is often tied to a fear of loss. If you’re…
Read More#284- The Dreaded “V” Word (Vulnerability)
#284- The Dreaded “V” Word (Vulnerability) Just hearing the word vulnerability makes some people run for the hills. But why is it so scary? Because it feels unsafe and people think vulnerability equals a loss of power or becoming a door mat. So in an effort to hold onto the upper hand, they want the…
Read More#283- Journey of Attachment: What Do You Really Fear?
#283- Journey of Attachment: What Do You Really Fear? You think you’re afraid of losing a relationship, job, friendship, money… losing something. But what if I told you your fear isn’t what you think it is? That actually, it’s not about the actual loss. It’s your feelings around the loss you’re afraid of. It’s not…
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