Posts by Shelley
#260- Searching For Consistency In Relationships
#260- Searching For Consistency In Relationships You have been looking your whole life for someone who is open, vulnerable and consistent, not understanding why you can’t find him/her. These are qualities you value, yet you don’t fully embody them yourself, so you look for someone who will compensate for where you’re closed and inconsistent. Unfortunately…
Read MoreSurviving to Thriving: Lyneè Urban
Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Lyneè Urban This is the very first interview for “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment.” Join me as I interview Lyneè Urban of Operation Fix My Life. She is a Nutrition and Lifestyle Coach dedicated to teaching busy women how to eliminate stress, transform their health,…
Read More#259- Journey of Attachment: Redefining Joy
#259- Journey of Attachment: Redefining Joy Joy is not the absence of pain, although it can seem that way when you don’t know any better. When you feel stuck in your love life, nothing has a shine to it. You’re in search of something to make you feel happy, yet you don’t see the limitations…
Read More#258- Saving People From Learning Their Own Lessons
#258- Saving People From Learning Their Own Lessons Do you hand out unsolicited advice, telling people how to live their lives? Maybe you think you’re doing them a favor because you want to save them from learning the “hard” way. After all, you know better than they do. Whether with friends or intimate relationships, this…
Read More#257- Journey of Attachment: Manipulation Doesn’t Lead to Change
#257- Journey of Attachment: Manipulation Doesn’t Lead to Change Your relationship isn’t going well. You don’t feel heard or appreciated, but you think if your partner would just try harder to do what you want him/her to do consistently, you’d feel better. Instead, you feel undermined because your feelings are dismissed; clearly you are “imagining…
Read More#256- Why Do I Always Feel Wrong Even When I’m Not?
#256- Why Do I Always Feel Wrong Even When I’m Not? The “I am wrong” belief is one that still pops up for me, and for many of my clients. The inner judge can be so critical, making you feel wrong for everything you do. It can often be triggered by what someone says. Maybe…
Read More#255- Journey of Attachment: The Fantasy of Someone Else’s Life
#255- Journey of Attachment: The Fantasy of Someone Else’s Life How much time do you spend investing in the lives of other people? Do you look at celebrities and think they know more about life than you do? Maybe you have a different set of rules for yourself and others, and the ones for yourself…
Read MoreThe Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best
Welcome to the final blog post in this series, based on one of my favorite books, “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz. If you need to catch up, you can read all prior posts below: Intro First Agreement Second Agreement Third Agreement Agreement #4: Always Do Your Best…
Read More#254- Controlling Others So You’re Not Angry With Yourself
#254- Controlling Others So You’re Not Angry With Yourself When you’re not happy with your current situation—whatever it is—you may feel angry. You think you’re pissed at the outside world, but really your anger lies with yourself. You don’t accept where you are; it’s not where you want to be. So in an attempt to…
Read More#253- Journey of Attachment: Rescuing Others Doesn’t Win You Love
#253- Journey of Attachment: Rescuing Others Doesn’t Win You Love Do you ever look at others and pity them? Maybe there is someone in your life who you feel bad for, and want their situation to change. It actually bothers you if they do nothing to help themselves, so you feel this strong urge to rescue…
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