Posts by Shelley
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions
Welcome back to my blog series on “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz. If you’re just joining, you can access the prior posts here: Intro, First Agreement, Second Agreement. Ok, let’s jump in! Agreement #3: Don’t Make Assumptions “The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth.”…
Read More#252- Teaching People How To Treat You
#252- Teaching People How To Treat You It’s hard to watch someone you care about being disrespected. You might even get pissed and wish you could control their reaction, wanting to yell out, “Why do you let him/her treat you that way?!” Maybe YOU even start treating them badly because they’re teaching you that behavior…
Read More#251- Journey of Attachment: Never Beg to be Loved
#251- Journey of Attachment: Never Beg to be Loved This podcast title came from a meme that really resonated with me, “Never beg to be loved.” While it may not sound like something you would do, I see it quite often in insecurely attached relationships (it never happens in healthy relationships). Begging to be loved results…
Read MoreThe Second Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally
Welcome back to my blog series on “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz. If you’re just joining, you may want to start with the intro post, then the First Agreement. Ok, let’s jump in! Agreement #2: Don’t Take Anything Personally “Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the…
Read More#250- Universe, Please Stop Beating Me Up
#250- Universe, Please Stop Beating Me Up The universe is powerful to be sure, but I speak to many people who believe it is in control and we’re just along for the ride. They think the universe decides if you should be punished or rewarded. This is simply not true. The universe does not act independently…
Read More#249- Journey of Attachment: Throwing Yourself a Pity Party
#249- Journey of Attachment: Throwing Yourself a Pity Party Something set you off, leaving you to feel everything sucks and no one loves you. Or you just woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Whatever the trigger, you feel the world is against you. Maybe it’s those old feelings of rejection, shame or…
Read MoreThe First Agreement: Be Impeccable With Your Word
The First Agreement: Be Impeccable With Your Word Thanks for joining my blog series based on one of my favorite books, “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz. We’re starting with the First Agreement: Be Impeccable With Your Word, and my version: Speaking your truth. But before diving in,…
Read More#248- Stealing Energy From Others
#248- Stealing Energy From Others When I first started coaching, I came across the book “The Ever-Transcending Spirit: The Psychology of Human Relationships, Consciousness, and Development” by Toru Sato. In it he talks about the concept of stealing energy. When you have an energy deficit in yourself, you may try to get it from others by…
Read More#247- Journey of Attachment: The Shame of Being Needy
#247- Journey of Attachment: The Shame of Being Needy No one wants to be called “needy” or “clingy,” so if you’re exhibiting this kind of behavior, you may be afraid to recognize and acknowledge it. It’s the last thing you want to admit to, especially if you fear judgment for it. Usually, you are in…
Read MoreHow To Apply “The Four Agreements” To Healthy Relationships
How To Apply “The Four Agreements” To Healthy Relationships Don Miguel Ruiz’s New York Times best-selling book, “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” is one of my most treasured books. It’s short, easy-to-digest, and addresses some major pitfalls of insecure attachment. In the next four posts, I’ll break down each agreement, explaining…
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