Posts by Shelley
#217- Journey of Attachment: Resistance to Reality
#217- Journey of Attachment: Resistance to Reality Resistance to reality is an unwillingness to see things as they truly are. It’s the struggle you’re in when you fight against an unsatisfactory situation, trying to change it through force, manipulation or any tactic where you’re trying to control the outcome. It’s the fear you feel in the…
Read More#216- Blame and Half Apologies
#216- Blame and Half Apologies The word “sorry” is thrown around a lot in our culture, and you may think simply saying it absolves you of wrongdoing. But what about those of us who include a disclaimer after our apologies? I’m sorry, BUT… (I was provoked, you pushed my buttons, you were out of line, etc.).…
Read More#215- Journey of Attachment: Over-giving and Over-performing
#215- Journey of Attachment: Over-giving and Over-performing Insecurely attached people tend to over-perform and over-compensate for the lack of value they feel inside. They think they have to work extra hard, running the race backwards, in order earn love and attention. This goes beyond people-pleasing. It’s a drive to show someone you’re worth it, needing…
Read More#214- When Pain Is In The Driver’s Seat
#214- When Pain Is In The Driver’s Seat Many people go through life with a certain level of pain, not realizing how much of their behavior is driven by it. What is pain? Anything in your life that is dissatisfying. It’s whatever you feel you can’t handle, or what you TRY to handle with mental strategies.…
Read More#213- Journey of Attachment: Closure Is An Illusion
#213- Journey of Attachment: Closure Is An Illusion When a relationship ends, people say they want “closure,” but what does that even mean? What specifically are they looking for? They THINK they emotionally let go, but they still hang on to the hope of some kind of resolution. Unfortunately there’s no such thing as…
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