Surviving to Thriving: Evan Carmichael

By Shelley | February 13, 2019 |

Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Evan Carmichael In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with entrepreneur, leader and YouTube influencer, Evan Carmichael. Evan’s darkest moment came at the ripe old age of 19. He was working his butt off at a software start-up making $300/week, frustrated by…

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#329- Journey of Attachment: Confessions of a Former Control Freak

By Shelley | February 12, 2019 |

#329- Journey of Attachment: Confessions of a Former Control Freak I was a control freak most of my life, keeping everything tightly held. But as I have learned may times over… control is an illusion. If you aren’t happy with your situation, it’s not about the outside; it’s about the inside. Trying to control people or…

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#328- Stories Are Not Reality; They Are Your Version of It

By Shelley | February 8, 2019 |

#328- Stories Are Not Reality; They Are Your Version of it You’ve heard there are two sides to every story. Actually, there are as many sides as there are people involved because stories are based on perspectives. When you build a case against someone, believing you are right and they are wrong, you are sticking to…

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#326- We’re All Messed Up; Deal With It

By Shelley | February 1, 2019 |

#326- We’re All Messed Up; Deal With It So many people strive for perfection to cover up feeling they’re messed up. But I have news for you: everyone is messed up! Including you. Welcome to the club, restrooms are down the hall. Your inner critic is what makes you believe you aren’t good enough, punishing yourself…

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Surviving to Thriving: Frangela

By Shelley | January 30, 2019 |

Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Frangela In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with daytime talk show hosts Frances Callier and Angela V. Shelton, better known as Frangela. Best friends, living near each other in LA, Frances and Angela share just about everything… even a car! Their…

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#325- Journey of Attachment: My Whole Relationship Is On The Phone

By Shelley | January 29, 2019 |

#325- Journey of Attachment: My Whole Relationship Is On The Phone Technology has become a crutch for people to hide behind. It’s a haven for Avoidants! Of course technology can be used in a healthy way, but when used to hide, it becomes problematic. Suddenly the rules for engagement are super important: “I can’t call first,”…

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#324- I’m Entitled to More Than This

By Shelley | January 25, 2019 |

#324- I’m Entitled to More Than This Some people get angry when things don’t go according to plan, believing they are owed something. This may be a successful job, great relationship, health, happiness, etc. Basically it’s an expectation that everything externally should align with what you feel you deserve. A lot of this starts in childhood,…

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Are You an Avoidant?

By Shelley | January 24, 2019 |

  I used to be a Class-A Avoidant. I was an over-doer, over-achiever obsessed with my image… meaning I went to great lengths to hide my true self in order to pretend I had it together. Not only did I NOT have it together, I was an internal mess. I was exhausted from trying to…

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#323- Journey of Attachment: Making Someone Else The Bad Guy

By Shelley | January 22, 2019 |

#323- Journey of Attachment: Making Someone Else The Bad Guy When you make a mistake or don’t want to feel bad about your choices, do you pin it on someone else? It’s their fault, they are the one to blame, they did it wrong. Not taking responsibility for your words and actions does not endear you…

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