Posts by Shelley
#298- Transitions and “Happily Ever After”
#298- Transitions and “Happily Ever After” Periods of transition (like going from single to married) can be happy and exciting, but also painful and frustrating. You have an expectation about how you should feel—all sunshine and roses, right? How could you be anything but elated to marry the love of your life? So why are you…
Read MoreSurviving to Thriving: Leisa Peterson
Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Leisa Peterson In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with money coach, author and educator Leisa Peterson. Growing up the daughter of hippie parents who were always in financial struggle, Leisa thought money was the answer to everything. Rejecting her upbringing where…
Read More#297- Journey of Attachment: But Isn’t It Too Soon For That?
#297- Journey of Attachment: But Isn’t It Too Soon For That? When it comes to dating and relationships, people sure have a lot of timing rules: it’s too soon to talk about marriage, I can’t meet his/her parents until we’re officially a couple, it’s too late to have kids. These rules are fueled by a…
Read More#296- How We Keep Life Predictable
#296- How We Keep Life Predictable How neat and tidy do you like to keep your life? Do job and relationship issues have to be a certain way, and do people need to fit into a particular category so you know what to expect? Black and white is predictable. Grey is messy and unknown so…
Read More#295- Journey of Attachment: Swallowing Childhood Pain
#295- Journey of Attachment: Swallowing Childhood Pain We all have childhood pain to some extent, but we come up with ways of avoiding it or looking for something to take it away. You may set up your life to avoid feeling it by people pleasing or trying to be perfect to avoid criticism, but it…
Read More#294- The Difference Between Relief and Feeling Good
#294- The Difference Between Relief and Feeling Good People often confuse relief with feeling good, but there is a BIG difference. Relief is external. It’s temporary and doesn’t require you to leave your comfort zone. Relief is going to a therapist as a means of catharsis—so you can vent about everything that isn’t working in…
Read MoreSurviving to Thriving: Shayna Hiller
Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Shayna Hiller In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with yoga teacher and certified health coach, Shayna Hiller. Growing up in an affluent town in New Jersey, Shayna was desperate to be liked. This led to an eating disorder and obsessive/compulsive exercising…
Read More#293- Journey of Attachment: Choosing A Life Vs. A Lifestyle
#293- Journey of Attachment: Choosing A Life Vs. A Lifestyle People often stay in bad relationships because they are afraid of losing their lifestyle—the house, group of friends, money, vacations, etc. It’s not just losing a partner, it’s losing the whole package. The problem is, that fear is often worse than the reality and it’s…
Read More#292- Why Is Compassion So Hard?
#292- Why Is Compassion So Hard? Compassion is such a nice word but it’s hard to do, especially when you have an attachment to your judgmental feelings. Compassion isn’t about giving away your power. It’s not feeling sorry for someone and it’s not excusing or accepting poor behavior. It’s a state of grace that comes…
Read More#291- Journey of Attachment: I Was Raised By Wolves
#291- Journey of Attachment: I Was Raised By Wolves I was raised by parents with no self-awareness and very dogmatic rules. This resulted in a lot of insecure feelings, but of course I didn’t know that’s where they came from. If you were also raised by wolves (used facetiously, of course) your emotional needs were…
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