Belief
Monday Tip: Comparison Is the Thief of Joy
Monday Tip: Comparison Is the Thief of Joy In my early days of coaching, I looked at how other coaches were marketing themselves, thinking I needed to be like them to succeed. I looked at celebrities who got divorced and remarried all while I was still single, thinking, “What is WRONG with me?” I beat…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Celebrate Your Wins
Monday Tip: Celebrate Your Wins Negativity bias is a psychological phenomenon where negative events are more impactful than positive ones. That means focusing on the negative isn’t totally your fault; it’s hardwired. This was helpful back in caveman/cavewoman days when you could be eaten by a sabertoothed tiger. Being on alert, and expecting the worst,…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Take One Step Forward
Monday Tip: Take One Step Forward Last week we talked about setting a goal, then letting go of how it needs to happen. When you’re narrowly focused, you can miss out on pretty amazing opportunities. But that doesn’t mean you sit back and do nothing. No, quite the opposite. To make something happen, you need…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Set a Goal Then Let It Go
Monday Tip: Set a Goal Then Let It Go I hope your 2023 is off to a good start. We all know this is the season for resolutions and goal-setting, but many end up falling apart by February. Why is that? Goals are important for moving you in the direction you want to go, but…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Fill Your Tank
Monday Tip: Fill Your Tank Often, when someone does something nice for us, we immediately want to reciprocate. If someone gives us a gift, we feel terrible if we don’t have something to give back. When they compliment us on our outfit, we look for something nice to say about them. If someone drives us…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Simply Say “Thank You”
Monday Tip: Simply Say “Thank You” Often, when someone does something nice for us, we immediately want to reciprocate. If someone gives us a gift, we feel terrible if we don’t have something to give back. When they compliment us on our outfit, we look for something nice to say about them. If someone drives…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Write a Letter to Your Honeybun
Monday Tip: Write a Letter to Your Honeybun Last week I talked about burying your fairy tale and choosing reality, so this week we’re not just going to focus on reality… we’re going to make it happen. I’ll start with a quick personal story: When I was dating, I used to pick apart the guys…
Read MoreWhy Won’t My Partner Respect Me? It’s About Setting Healthy Relationship Boundaries
Why Won’t My Partner Respect Me? It’s About Setting Healthy Relationship Boundaries Debbie’s partner called her lazy because she didn’t organize the garage last weekend as planned. When she shrunk his sweater he snapped, “You’re lucky I stick around.” She dismissed his comments as “overly dramatic” and “half joking,” but still baked him cookies to…
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