Monday Tip: Comparison Is the Thief of Joy
In my early days of coaching, I looked at how other coaches were marketing themselves, thinking I needed to be like them to succeed. I looked at celebrities who got divorced and remarried all while I was still single, thinking, “What is WRONG with me?” I beat myself up over my parenting style when looking at those who I thought were doing it better. Whatever it was, my inner critic kept telling me I was doing it wrong.
Looking externally keeps you in a state of wanting rather than feeling grateful for what you have and where you are. So what if that celebrity is on marriage #2 and you’re still waiting for #1? You have no idea about that person’s situation. Perhaps they’re miserable.
TIP: Comparison truly is the thief of joy. When you notice that you’re comparing yourself to someone else, remind yourself you have no idea what their life is like. Don’t assume they’re happier than you. By shifting your focus away from them you can determine what happiness means to you—the only person that really counts.
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