insecure attachment
Monday Tip: Comparison Is the Thief of Joy
Monday Tip: Comparison Is the Thief of Joy In my early days of coaching, I looked at how other coaches were marketing themselves, thinking I needed to be like them to succeed. I looked at celebrities who got divorced and remarried all while I was still single, thinking, “What is WRONG with me?” I beat…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Fill Your Tank
Monday Tip: Fill Your Tank Often, when someone does something nice for us, we immediately want to reciprocate. If someone gives us a gift, we feel terrible if we don’t have something to give back. When they compliment us on our outfit, we look for something nice to say about them. If someone drives us…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Simply Say “Thank You”
Monday Tip: Simply Say “Thank You” Often, when someone does something nice for us, we immediately want to reciprocate. If someone gives us a gift, we feel terrible if we don’t have something to give back. When they compliment us on our outfit, we look for something nice to say about them. If someone drives…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Write a Letter to Your Honeybun
Monday Tip: Write a Letter to Your Honeybun Last week I talked about burying your fairy tale and choosing reality, so this week we’re not just going to focus on reality… we’re going to make it happen. I’ll start with a quick personal story: When I was dating, I used to pick apart the guys…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Bury Your Fairy Tale
Monday Tip: Bury Your Fairy Tale Fairy tales can be fun fantasies when we’re kids, but in adulthood they can be incredibly painful. How long have you waited for your knight in shining armor or your perfect princess to show up? Someone who will rescue you from your ho-hum life and tell you how amazing…
Read MoreWhy Trying To Avoid Pain Doesn’t Make you Happy
Pain sucks. No one likes it, but those who are securely attached deal with it as part of life while Avoidants go to great lengths in an effort to avoid it. Who are avoidants or those who are anxious avoidants? In the world of insecure attachment, these people are the ones who wanted nothing to…
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