Posts by Shelley
#363- Journey of Attachment: Love Your Anxiety
#363- Journey of Attachment: Love Your Anxiety Anxiety isn’t the enemy—it’s just trying to do its job. It sounds the alarm when fear comes up, stepping in to take care of things. It provides a clue to your internal workings: where you lack trust, what you fear, what you don’t accept, etc. It is wrapped up…
Read More#362- Rules in Relationships: WTF is Compromise?
#362- Rules in Relationships: WTF is Compromise? Do you think other people should bend to what you want? To satisfy your way of doing things or perform the way you want? You may have this expectation without realizing the rules you are creating: it’s too late to make plans, we can’t talk on the phone more…
Read More#361- Journey of Attachment: Being An Anxious Pursuer In Relationships
#361- Journey of Attachment: Being An Anxious Pursuer In Relationships “I attract avoidants” has almost become a mantra for anxious pursuers who are convinced they are only attracted to people who shun them. They believe relationships require a lot of effort, thus feeling a deeper connection to partners who reject them. If it comes easy, something…
Read More#360- The Grey Area of Emotional Change
#360- The Grey Area of Emotional Change As much as we want life to be black and white so we can keep things neat and tidy, it’s not. That is your intellect trying to run the show. Everything is a shade of grey, especially when it comes to emotions. When you put your mind in charge…
Read More#359- Journey of Attachment: Emotional Unavailability–What’s the Cure?
#359- Journey of Attachment: Emotional Unavailability–What’s the Cure? Your relationship with yourself is reflected in your relationships with others. If you didn’t receive much unconditional love as a kid, you do not know what it’s like to give yourself love and attention. And if you don’t give those to yourself, others won’t be able to give…
Read More#358- I Need To Understand, Then I Can Keep ‘Em!
#358- I Need To Understand, Then I Can Keep ‘Em! BUT WHY? You think if you can just understand what happened in your relationship, you can manage your emotions and put things back together. You won’t have to deal with loss or disappointment because you will make it work. If you can just understand why you…
Read More#357- Journey of Attachment: I Can’t Let Go! My “Best Friend” Connection to My Ex.
#357- Journey of Attachment: I Can’t Let Go! My “Best Friend” Connection to My Ex. Having trouble detaching from a toxic relationship that is over because you swear he or she was your best friend? You try “no contact” and focus on yourself, which is great until you hear from them and lose all the ground…
Read More#356- I Am Not Getting My Way! I Am Going To…
#356- I Am Not Getting My Way! I Am Going To… Do you want people to act a certain way, treat you a certain way or do things the way you want them done? Do you expect them to live up to your standards of what is acceptable, or who you think they should be? The…
Read MoreSurviving to Thriving: Alyssa Aubrey
Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Alyssa Aubrey In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with Alyssa Aubrey, Founder and Director of Medicine Horse Ranch, an experiential learning center that incorporates horses into human development. Growing up, Alyssa was the daughter of an alcoholic father and co-dependent mother.…
Read More#355- Journey of Attachment: Making a Decision? Fear is Not the Place to Start
#355- Journey of Attachment: Making a Decision? Fear is Not the Place to Start For many people, fear motivates their decision-making; particularly the fear of loss. They think choosing this way will somehow circumvent struggle, but it just entrenches them further. Coming from fear always costs more than coming from happiness, peace or love. So why…
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