Posts by Shelley
#282- Surrendering to “What Is” to Create Change
#282- Surrendering to “What Is” to Create Change The best way to change anything in your life is through surrender, whether that be a relationship, job, house, etc. Doing things the same way you’ve always done them doesn’t lead to different results. If you’re arguing with the circumstances around you, you’re not open to receiving…
Read MoreSurrendering To What You Want
The final installment of my Surrender series focuses on surrendering to what you want. You can read about surrendering to feelings here and surrendering to resistance here. “Dream big – dream very big. Work hard – work very hard. And after you’ve done all you can, you stand, wait and fully surrender.” –Oprah Winfrey …
Read MoreSurviving to Thriving: Elli Richter
Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Elli Richter In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with Holistic Life coach Elli Richter who helps people feel, heal and deal so they can live a fulfilled, healthy and successful life. In her mid-30s, Elli thought life’s hurdles were behind…
Read More#281- Journey of Attachment: Moving From Angry Victim to Your Own Hero
#281- Journey of Attachment: Moving From Angry Victim to Your Own Hero When in an attached relationship, do you feel like you’re owed something? Maybe you rescue or fix, but don’t get back what you feel you’re entitled to… so you get pissed off. You may not even know where that anger comes from until…
Read More#280- Respect From Others Starts With You
#280- Respect From Others Starts With You It’s amazing how many people seek respect from others, yet don’t know how to respect themselves. This happens in relationships of all sorts: romantic, friends, parents, kids, colleagues, etc. In these cases, a fear of loss is at play. When you’re afraid of losing the relationship, you might…
Read MoreSurrendering to Feelings
This second installment of my Surrender series focuses on surrendering to feelings. You can read about surrendering to resistance in my first post here. “Something amazing happens when we surrender and just love. We melt into another world, a realm of power already within us. The world changes when we change. the world softens when…
Read More#279- Journey of Attachment: Believing you’re Seeking Attention But Really Creating Tension
#279- Journey of Attachment: Believing you’re Seeking Attention But Really Creating Tension In attached relationships where you seek attention, you may actually be creating tension. Tension is a dramatic feeling—looking for what’s wrong, being pulled in a particular direction, intense chemistry, etc. Tension is fleeting, meaning if you use it to get attention, it won’t…
Read More#278- Let Your Freak Flag Fly
#278- Let Your Freak Flag Fly You want to be who you are, but you’ve learned that conforming is safer. Perhaps you felt shame as a kid for being “different” or doing something “wrong” so you brought that into adulthood where you did everything you could to avoid that feeling. You’re smart when you’re with…
Read MoreSurrendering to Resistance
I’m writing a three-part series on surrender because it’s so powerful in receiving what you want. I have been particularly challenged with it lately: in my personal life with my wedding, and in my business, which is shifting and growing. Surrender is difficult because our subconscious likes to keep things predictably the same. It’s safer…
Read More#277- Journey of Attachment: Why Did You Leave—Was It Something I Said?
#277- Journey of Attachment: Why Did You Leave—Was It Something I Said? Do you think you can control how someone feels about you by what you do or say? Say the right thing and you’re golden; say something wrong and he/she might leave. This leads you to judge and second-guess EVERYTHING, wondering when you’ll say…
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