Posts by Shelley
#354- The Struggle is Real
#354- The Struggle is Real We all have stories we tell ourselves about who we are and how life should be, even if those stories are subconscious. To keep those stories alive, you expect everything outside of you to cooperate. If your story is that you’re creative, can’t sit still and need a lot of variety,…
Read More#353- Journey of Attachment: Unspoken Rules, Agreements and Promises
#353- Journey of Attachment: Unspoken Rules, Agreements and Promises Do you live your life based on rules, promises and agreements you made as a kid? Maybe you think things need to be a certain way, but you’re not sure why. Promises can influence many areas of your life without you even realizing it. It could be…
Read More#352- Validating vs. Invalidating Conversations
#352- Validating vs. Invalidating Conversations How do you react when someone says you have upset them? Perhaps they took something personally that you didn’t intend. Do you get defensive or accuse them of overreacting? Or do you actually listen to how they feel? When in a defensive state, all you hear is blame and shame for…
Read More#351- Journey of Attachment: True Feelings vs. Reactions
#351- Journey of Attachment: True Feelings vs. Reactions It’s hard to speak your true feelings. When asked, you may talk about what is happening externally: you’re stressed from work, worried about your relationship or upset about something a friend said. But those aren’t your deeper feelings; those are actually reactions. To understand what’s really going on,…
Read More#350- Ruminating vs. Feeling Your Feelings- What’s the Difference?
#350- Ruminating vs. Feeling Your Feelings- What’s the Difference? People tend to confuse feeling your feelings with ruminating. Rehashing the same story over and over is not processing your feelings—that’s ruminating. It’s a way of staying focused on stories and the meaning you give them. It’s also a way of avoiding your deeper feelings. You think…
Read More#349- Journey of Attachment: Why Do You Allow Yourself to be Treated Badly?
#349- Journey of Attachment: Why Do You Allow Yourself to be Treated Badly? Do you constantly feel disrespected by your partner, friends, colleagues, etc.? Do you think they are the mean ones and you are the poor one who is made to suffer? Well, what if they were just following your lead? Everything you say or…
Read More#348- How Rules Rob You of Happiness
#348- How Rules Rob You of Happiness Rules are important for safety and for functioning in society, but you probably have a laundry list of rules you aren’t even aware of; ones that don’t serve you. If you spent today noticing all the rules in your life, you may be surprised by how much they operate…
Read MoreSurviving to Thriving: Jen Rozenbaum
Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment Jen Rozenbaum In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with author, podcaster and intimate photographer Jen Rozenbaum. After a miscarriage and life-threatening ectopic pregnancy, Jen needed to direct her energy into something creative, so she picked up a camera and taught herself…
Read More#347- Journey of Attachment: The “It’s Complicated” Relationship Status
#347- Journey of Attachment: The “It’s Complicated” Relationship Status Do you put up with complicated relationships? “It’s Complicated” as a relationship status is a bit of a cultural joke because it rings true so often, but does it have to be that way? Is it fun to feel frustrated and misunderstood? Or put forth a lot…
Read More#346- Why Is It So Hard To Accept Where You Are?
#346- Why Is It So Hard To Accept Where You Are? Do you struggle with where you are in life, wishing you were somewhere else? Maybe you think there is something wrong with where you are and you want to change it… NOW. But if you try to change without accepting where you are, you’ll stay…
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