Love
Monday Tip: Comparison Is the Thief of Joy
Monday Tip: Comparison Is the Thief of Joy In my early days of coaching, I looked at how other coaches were marketing themselves, thinking I needed to be like them to succeed. I looked at celebrities who got divorced and remarried all while I was still single, thinking, “What is WRONG with me?” I beat…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Be Wrong
Monday Tip: Be Wrong Oh boy do we love being right. That “I told ya so” can feel so satisfying, but why? What do we actually gain by being right? A feeling of superiority? Validation that we’re worthy? Those feelings are temporary and come from a state of lack. When they disappear, we need something…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Give Yourself Some Lovin’
Monday Tip: Give Yourself Some Lovin’ Yep, it’s almost here again: Valentine’s Day. We’ve created all this pomp and circumstance around one single day, but rarely is it the “best love day ever.” In fact, better titles might be “best day for crazy-ass expectations” or “best day for hating singlehood” or “best day to avoid…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Spill the Beans
Monday Tip: Spill the Beans Raise your hand if you’re keeping a secret from your partner, your family, your friends, dating prospects, etc. Maybe you don’t consider it a secret—you’re just leaving bits out or cherry-picking what you share. Everyone does that, right? It can be as “innocuous” as hiding shopping receipts or as big…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Spot Emotional Unavailability
Monday Tip: Spot Emotional Unavailability Last week’s tip was about not ignoring red flags, so this week I’m going a step further. One red flag I see people ignore all the time (or don’t actually see) is emotional unavailability. What do I mean by emotional unavailability? Someone who: Isn’t emotionally present or connected Doesn’t match…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Write a Letter to Your Honeybun
Monday Tip: Write a Letter to Your Honeybun Last week I talked about burying your fairy tale and choosing reality, so this week we’re not just going to focus on reality… we’re going to make it happen. I’ll start with a quick personal story: When I was dating, I used to pick apart the guys…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Bury Your Fairy Tale
Monday Tip: Bury Your Fairy Tale Fairy tales can be fun fantasies when we’re kids, but in adulthood they can be incredibly painful. How long have you waited for your knight in shining armor or your perfect princess to show up? Someone who will rescue you from your ho-hum life and tell you how amazing…
Read MorePeople Pleasing is the Opposite of Real Love
People Pleasing is the Opposite of Real Love Ever say “yes” when you want to say “no”? Do you try to masquerade as a perfect example to others? What about going along to get along, or being careful not to upset the apple cart? If so, how disconnected do you feel from who you truly…
Read MoreI want to meet the one!
Are you waiting for the one? I got news for you. Until you realize you are the one, there is no one who fills those shoes. It means: You’ve got to be aware of your own behavior. You’ve got to surrender to your old ways. You have to stop looking at your date as the…
Read MoreWhy You Keep Attracting The Wrong Partners
You’re sick of dating and the series of dead-end relationships you find yourself in. It’s just plain painful, tedious and brings up every fear you don’t want to confront. You feel like you’re always starting over, never sure why your “picker” is off. You keep attracting the wrong partners, which inevitably leads to asking WHAT…
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