Happiness
Monday Tip: Comparison Is the Thief of Joy
Monday Tip: Comparison Is the Thief of Joy In my early days of coaching, I looked at how other coaches were marketing themselves, thinking I needed to be like them to succeed. I looked at celebrities who got divorced and remarried all while I was still single, thinking, “What is WRONG with me?” I beat…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Be Wrong
Monday Tip: Be Wrong Oh boy do we love being right. That “I told ya so” can feel so satisfying, but why? What do we actually gain by being right? A feeling of superiority? Validation that we’re worthy? Those feelings are temporary and come from a state of lack. When they disappear, we need something…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Give Yourself Some Lovin’
Monday Tip: Give Yourself Some Lovin’ Yep, it’s almost here again: Valentine’s Day. We’ve created all this pomp and circumstance around one single day, but rarely is it the “best love day ever.” In fact, better titles might be “best day for crazy-ass expectations” or “best day for hating singlehood” or “best day to avoid…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Spill the Beans
Monday Tip: Spill the Beans Raise your hand if you’re keeping a secret from your partner, your family, your friends, dating prospects, etc. Maybe you don’t consider it a secret—you’re just leaving bits out or cherry-picking what you share. Everyone does that, right? It can be as “innocuous” as hiding shopping receipts or as big…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Spot Emotional Unavailability
Monday Tip: Spot Emotional Unavailability Last week’s tip was about not ignoring red flags, so this week I’m going a step further. One red flag I see people ignore all the time (or don’t actually see) is emotional unavailability. What do I mean by emotional unavailability? Someone who: Isn’t emotionally present or connected Doesn’t match…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Don’t Ignore Red Flags
Monday Tip: Don’t Ignore Red Flags We’ve all done this. There’s something we want (a relationship, a job, a house, etc.) so we ignore the signs that tell us to “abort mission.” The house’s electrical is shot, there’s a bunch of termite damage and the roof leaks… but it’s a beautiful Victorian and has so…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Celebrate Your Wins
Monday Tip: Celebrate Your Wins Negativity bias is a psychological phenomenon where negative events are more impactful than positive ones. That means focusing on the negative isn’t totally your fault; it’s hardwired. This was helpful back in caveman/cavewoman days when you could be eaten by a sabertoothed tiger. Being on alert, and expecting the worst,…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Take One Step Forward
Monday Tip: Take One Step Forward Last week we talked about setting a goal, then letting go of how it needs to happen. When you’re narrowly focused, you can miss out on pretty amazing opportunities. But that doesn’t mean you sit back and do nothing. No, quite the opposite. To make something happen, you need…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Set a Goal Then Let It Go
Monday Tip: Set a Goal Then Let It Go I hope your 2023 is off to a good start. We all know this is the season for resolutions and goal-setting, but many end up falling apart by February. Why is that? Goals are important for moving you in the direction you want to go, but…
Read MoreMonday Tip: Fill Your Tank
Monday Tip: Fill Your Tank Often, when someone does something nice for us, we immediately want to reciprocate. If someone gives us a gift, we feel terrible if we don’t have something to give back. When they compliment us on our outfit, we look for something nice to say about them. If someone drives us…
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